Discover the Unfamiliar

Our life is full of challenges, the challenges we over come by facing the unknown RISKS…that leads us to our SUCCESS; the next level of our life. Often we feel uncomfortable to unfold our CAPABILITIES that are located within us, as we hold fear in breaking through those challenges. 

Fear stops us in taking risk. It can be fear of failure, fear of losing something or fear of unknown. Challenge is something, which we are not used to, or something we never handled of. To face that challenge or something new, we HAVE to come out of our comfort zone, work in unknown space where we are not sure of out come. And to come out of our comfort zone, we first HAVE to accept the challenge and get ready to unfold and enter into unknown zone, without having any expectations on the out come would be.

For this we GOT to have a Positive Attitude, Courage, well-Determined mindset, High- Self Confidence, Self Esteem and above all theses the Passion to face and conquer the Challenge without fear. By just keeping simple thing in mind – If I succeed then its an another SUCCESS in my kitty else its an another experience I got to LEARN.

 And then, try another method. ALWAYS REMEMBER THERE ARE NO FAILURES.

"Nothing can be called failure until you accept it as such. You can transmute all past failures and mistakes into ASSERTS. Adversity is Nature's method of disciplining people to learn to take possession of their own minds. Greatest blessings often come from the greatest adversities. Study yourself carefully and you may discover that your own emotions are your greatest handicap in the business of accurate thinking."

To discover the unfamiliar, one must take risk by coming out of comfort zone. When we start facing the challenges in unfamiliar zone, then that new space becomes your comfort zone, which was once an unknown zone. 

Risk, shows how far you are willing to face the fear. The person who is containing the lofty tolerance will take great risk, and attain Excellence.

Discover your Strengths!!! Live Strong with Passion!!!

Vahini Muniganti

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2…Changing the Past Perception

Human life is full of Experiences, Beliefs, Perceptions, and Change…

Nothing is consistent except change; Change is the only thing, which is consistent in human life…and we hardly realize it…

Even though change is consistent in our life, every change starts with Fear-The fear of Unknown, an Impression – that creates Perception and a overall Experience – which is sometimes good and few bad; where the good gives us pleasant feelings, the bad becomes stepping stone to us, by giving its Lessons, the Life lessons.

In all these events, we knowingly and unknowingly create certain impressions in our mind; these perceptions influence us in our decisions; in every moment of our life…based on our past perception we view and judge the people, the world around us.

Allow me to share my own experience, an incidence that can be a case study to above subject.

Few years ago, my husband, Harish, [who was my fiancée] and me were going on drive and suddenly I realized that we were on different route. When I asked Harish about it, he said we were going to meet one of his old mates - Andy. 

Adding to that he said that they have done their entire schooling and college together. He continued telling everything about Andy – the good, the bad and the awful. Most of the information I heard about Andy was unpleasant and felt, instead of meeting him we could go to some pleasant place.

It would be waste of time meeting this person, I told to myself.

Within few minutes we were at Andy’s place. Harish rang the doorbell; a man with tedious face and ragged clothes opened the door…With the broad smile opened his arms and hugged Harish and received him with affection and his expression was- as if he discovered the most Precious thing in this world.

Then he saw me; however I was not keen to get introduced to this man…as I already formed an opinion about Andy based on Harish’s information. Where in Harish didn’t share worse things deliberately in his conversation, it was his crazy memories… all man things.

Andy stretched his arms and welcomed me pleasantly…he said- Welcome to my sweet home! My dear excellent friend…it’s wonderful to meet a great friend like you, he added.

With boredom in my face, I asked Andy- How do you know that I am a great person [honestly, little irritation in my mind; thinking that this person is trying too hard]

Andy replied – because you are my great friends fiancée… I slow downed a bit and paused.

After a long conversation on recollection of their old memories and togetherness… we decided to depart, at that final moment- Andy made an apology to me saying that he got nothing to offer as it was my first visit to his place.

Then, very next moment he said- this is what I can offer, saying that Andy lit a candle in his composed prayer shelf, kneel down and offered a prayer.

Lord, thank you for sending this lovely angel to my home today – Lord today you have gifted me a little sister, unfortunately I have nothing to offer other than my Prayer. Oh! Lord please showers your grace and abundance blessing to this lovely couple in all the events. Give them strength, health, and prosperity. Thank you Almighty, for accepting my prayers…he said and stood up to send us off…

I could notice tears in his eyes, I couldn’t stop myself…just went to Andy rubbed his back and hugged him and said – Andy…thank you for the prayer.

Traveling back home, I realized that I was looking at Andy with an impression I created by to picking up few bad and worse incidences I heard of. And because of that I was getting irritated and restless when they were recollecting old days… I was not part of their conversation.

I forgot that- Time has changed from Then to Now; people Change according to time, situation and experiences…. I learnt one of my Valuable lessons that day…

The moment we get engaged with someone we start creating our opinions on the new person without trying to know them thoroughly. 

The newly married couple is always given a psychological glasses… they live with this rented opinions and live according to it with out seeing the reality… and above to it the members of the family gives their own opinion creating more differences between the couple – like adding the fuel to fire…

This happens not only in the marriages, but also in the new relationships, new employee in office, get to gathers…this can happen anywhere… most of the times what we see and think of a person may not be true… we better rely on our true experience that on acquired information.

The notion and perception we create unknowingly is hard to be replaced…because of which many a time others suffer. So why place a wrong impression in the first place…before getting an opinion lets be sure about it.

Let us not see anyone or anything with dented mind…lets not seed others mind with our opinions…just by having wrong perceptions.

LETS CHANGE TO DO EXTREMELY WELL…

Live Positive and Passionate!!!

Vahini Muniganti

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Protract excitement… 1…Feel and alter the feelings 2…Changing the past perception 3…By discovering the unfamiliar

1…Feel and alter the feelings

That was an usual day, but I got a reason to feel excited…my friend, Bhanu came to our place with her husband Krish…while serving the tea and snacks; we demand them to stay back for dinner, as they dropped by at brunch time, I being a person who loves to cook and serve, got a reason to cook special dish…but in all these episodes, we could clearly notice that my friend Bhanu was upset for some reason…that even Krish was also not aware of…

She was frustrated from within and no humor could giggle her, instead we could see the clenched teeth as if she is holding her volcanic temper. I would rather say it as the recent Tsunami temper…we must leave the couple alone for sometime providing private space to sort out the issue; my husband and me felt.

I requested my husband to be a helping hand in kitchen… the conversation of my friend was so high; I felt the whole society can hear her voice…She was frustrated at this thankless job of home maker and parenting…She felt like leaving away everything and everyone and run away as she was not finding anytime for herself; she was feeling worthless. She felt disrespected and taken for grated. Maybe she did not know the better way of handling the situations. Krish was trying to sober her down, as he felt conscious of location. Krish is a nice person, very polite in approach, person with a lot of patience and tolerance; Bhanu on the other hand is straightforward and strong at approach, patience and tolerance is not her cup of tea... They, being the love married couple, we know, they love each other immensely. Krish adore Bhanu for her innocence, purity and mental strength. Krish knows that, if Bhanu can change her aggressive behavior and gets soft spoken she will be exceptionally admired person. He accepted her for what she is. At times it was little difficult to him as her anger becomes too turbulent. He loved to pamper her, correcting her and care for her each emotion…

Bhanu started shouting at Krish on petty things…Krish could understand her frustration; and she was right at some points… Krish allowed Bhanu to shout and when she calmed down, he said; I am extremely sorry if I have hurt you.  

Bhanu got speechless, Kirish said; good we stayed back here, you got a break from preparing dinner…and he smiled…Bhanu smiled and hugged. Bhanu felt; God!!! How much he loves me! Krish didn’t move a bit and thought you don’t know how much I love you.

                                      

When anyone is emotionally down, try to understand his or her feeling instead of present intelligent solutions.

                           

  

This kind of situation could be with anyone of us at certain point of time in our lives. Not only between the couples but it can be with any relationship…parents, siblings, children, friends, or anyone…if we love them then it’s easy to understand their feeling. Place yourself in their shoes; try to experience what they are going through; try to know what is making them feel low or frustrated.

And then, a knowledge them that you care for their emotions; you are always there for them unconditionally; instead of giving smart advises and solution…Share the feeling by converse instead of getting preachy.  Don’t hesitate to take the false blame…like Krish did for his loved wife…where both of them know it’s not his fault totally….

For Krish; what Bhanu was saying while fighting was not important but what she was feeling was more important to him, He tried to feel what she was feeling, which allowed him to have patience, and tolerance.

It’s not necessary that someone else always have to be there to understand and shift your emotions…when you feel like you are under frustrating mood, emotionally low… Shift your focus by changing the thought process and get into different activity; change the mood by choosing contrast words…words are basis for communication, we not only communicate with others but even with ourselves. When we communicate within, its very important to choose right words… lets see how can we help ourselves to change our emotional state, by changing the words. Say these converts to yourself when in different gray moods.

Negative Emotions                                           Converts into

·                    Angry                                - Patience                  

·                    Boredom                           - Hobby

·                    Dominating                       - Little concern and feel sensitive about others feelings

·                    Frustration                         - Challenge and Fascination

·                    Timidity                            - Confident and informative

·                    Insecure                             - Questioning and be sure of the things

·                    Greedy                              - Helpful

·                    Lonely & Fearful              - Informative, Confident and available

·                    Stressed                            - Energized

·                    Sad                                   - Joyous, Cheerful

·                    Depressed                        - Change the location, get involved in a hobby

·                    Afraid                              - Brave and confident [repeat this in your mind]

·                    Lazy                                - Energized

·                    Confused                         - Analyses the situation and decide confidently

·                    Hatred                             - Love

Try this and feel the difference! You may apply your own strategies as well. I personally go on a ride when I feel low… or start painting, or plan to cook special dish…or talk to dearly people on phone [without letting them the reason behind my call]. And by the end of my activity, I literally forget my previous mood…sometime I laugh on myself; when I think of the low mood and stupid frustrations…Some times…its funny to joke on our low mood behaviors… J

 Be sensitive towards others feeling and help them come out of it…and help yourself by altering the feelings…be Emotionally intelligent…

Take care and Enjoy life for fullest!!!          

Vahini Muniganti

      

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Strong Women Vs Strength of Women

A strong woman works out every day to keep her body in shape ...
but a woman of strength kneels in prayer to keep her soul in shape...

A strong woman isn't afraid of anything ...
but a woman of strength shows courage in the midst of her fear...


A strong woman won't let anyone get the best of her ...
but a woman of strength gives the best of her to everyone...


A strong woman makes mistakes and avoids the same in the future...
a woman of strength realizes life's mistakes can also be God's blessings and capitalizes on them...


A strong woman walks sure footedly ...
but a woman of strength knows God will catch her when she falls...


A strong woman wears the look of confidence on her face ...
but a woman of strength wears grace...


A strong woman has faith that she is strong enough for the journey ...
but a woman of strength has faith that it is in the journey that she will become strong...


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Why don’t you acquire what you desire for?

Did you ever feel like, why my wishes and desires not fulfilled even after my constant prayers?

Not all wishes fulfilled, not all prayers answered…

More over, misanthropists use this as evidence that prayers do not work. What they don’t understand is that for prayers to work; they must be effective with considerate precise base…as Dr. Joseph Murphy said.

Many a times I get to hear from people that what they wish and pray for is not answered.

Did that ever happen to you If YES; then did you think why so…

Why the wishes were not answered? The principle reason for such failure is … your state of mind, your belief on that particular prayer.

MIND!!! Has Unbelievable and amazing power within it, which can be yours if you know how to canalize and use it. Mind is the most valuable possession.  You might have heard of conscious and subconscious levels of mind. The conscious is rational and objective; whereas the subconscious is subjective and irrational. What you think of with your conscious mind is taken by your subconscious mind seriously. The subconscious mind is place of emotions. And your state of mind reflects your thinking and behavior in any situation, event, based on your emotions. When you desire for something and while praying for it, if you are low or negative at your emotional level, then, do you think your prayers will be answered? Absolutely NO!!! Because you are praying something better BUT with a negative emotions [Doubt]. This will create a conflict in your subconscious mind.

To understand this we will look into a simpler example… think of parents who wants to see their children grow intelligent and confidently in their life. Who, all the time wishes to see their children in great positions. Who has high hopes and expectation on their children? Who wants to see their child to be independent and successful? BUT invariably spoon-feed the children even after the children cross their late 20s. Holds hands of the children while crossing the road when the child is in his/her college level. Takes care of little things as they we do for the 5 years kid. Providing every solution before the child face the problem in practical.

Do you think this bringing up can boost self-confidence and high intelligence in the child to achieve all the heights, which the parents are wishing to see? Clearly NO… Why because the wishes and expectation on the child and the bringing up of the child is not matching. It’s totally conflicting.  Here parent’s wishes and desires are like conscious mind and the parenting method is like subconscious mind. When do not match they create conflict and do not show any result. Or may lead to bad result if the mismatch is high.

It is the same with your conscious and subconscious mind. When you consciously think of something your subconscious mind accepts it and works towards it. But it won’t rationalize whether it’s right or wrong. So, when you are praying or desiring for something, it is very important to be clear, specific and confident about it. So that there is, clear instruction to the subconscious mind to execute it. It uses all the mental and spiritual law in its execution; for good or bad.

Lack of confidence leads to too much of efforts; also block the answer for your prayer. If you pray by keeping negative emotions in back of your mind the consequently you will face troubles, failures and confusions.

Your wishes and prayers are like questions…Always remember!!! There is no wrong answer if the question is right…

Wish and pray with clear, confident and specific way by having love, faith and positively constructive thoughts. Your prayers WILL get answered…

Understand the REAL POWER of your mind; the law of mind will do the rest for you.

Now as you know the power and law of conscious and subconscious mind, turn over your prayers with faith and confidence. Your subconscious will capture and answer for you. But DO NOT aim to force your subconscious mind; to do something for you, you will fail. Subconscious mind do not respond for compulsion. It will accept to your conscious mind or to your faith and beliefs.

Few reasons of your failure may be your belief statements as:

·        I will never get any answer

·        I dint know what to do

·        I Things are getting worse

·        I know even if I pray whole-heartedly and with full faith it won’t work.

When you pray with clear positive mind keeping any of the above statements in your mind, you get NO result.

Basically you are confusing your mind. You must have a clear-cut idea in your mind. Conscious mind, then the endless power in your subconscious mind gets you, your answer by cooperating with conscious mind.

To avoid conflict and have balance in your conscious and subconscious mind think positive, have sufficient sleep. Imagine the fulfillment of your desires and wishes. Wish and pray with clear, positive, confident mind. Sleep in calm and rouse with bliss!!!

Vahini Muniganti

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