Beauty of Life...
| | 3 commentsIf we are on the river of life; its obvious to go with the flow and its likely we are going to hit a few rocks, as we don't know to control ourself in that flow. I believe, thats not being in negative way; its only the process of becoming perfect; path of learning accuracy.
Getting hit by rocks is nothing but failing in some things as we don't know what is that accuracy at that stage. And with that we get experienced, the experience that is useful in further life. Experience in both ways anticipating the problem and solution for upcoming problem. Indeed this gives a strength, and calmness to the mind.
Some body said,"Experience is not what happens to a man, it is what a man does with what happens to him."
All of us have faced some experiences or other in life, the question is, How we dealt with that situations? What experiences we gained out of it?
The success doesn't come like a piece of cake to anyone, there must be so many failures, bad experiences, sacrifices and rejections behind that Success. We know that if, someone is successful its because of good decision, and to get into a state of making good decisions one must have experiences. The experiences are results of bad judgment. One who deals with situations and learn out of their mistakes will obtain the skills of making good decisions in their life. And, as we all know... Good decisions leads to success.
I believe one must act like that rock as well as the water in the river....in our lives, to Succeed.
When it comes to understanding, mingling with people... we must be like water which takes the shape according to the shape of container, the water gets diluted with milk or with any color.... just flows forward determined to reach its destination, even when got hit by the rocks. The strength and positivity of water teaches us so many things. And also teaches us not to get dilute with negative people as the water does with oils...
The rocks teaches us to be steady calmly even when you are hit by life again and again like the waves. The size and strength of the rock is not melted nor disturbed by the waves, they just hit and go away. Same with life, the problems, tough situations, come try their hand and go away and we being rock don't get affected by these challenges. And simply enjoy the challenge and move ahead with a smile....
And as we succeed and grow bigger and bigger then start acting like a Tree...
The bigger the Tree the deeper the roots. The higher the vertical, the closer to earth, the wider the horizon... It just grows calmly...in all the ways....
Simple don'ts to be followed....
Don't try to judge people around you, don't keep high expectation from other but from yourself... No Blame, no negativity, never imposing your decisions on other, don't try to control others, never under estimate yourself and others, don't enter into others space, live and let live.
Live life... happily, by enjoying the challenges... strong like rock.... understand and move forward like water and grow like a TREE....
All the best & God bless!!!!
Vahini Muniganti
Determination
| | 0 commentsDetermination is like a vertebral column, an uninterrupted line. It is when every situation is fixed to an invisible aim that still, keeps everything together. Without determination, life becomes sprinkled. Determination keeps the pleasant experiences with it and leaves the unpleasant experiences by taking a lesson out of those unpleasant situations.
Determination makes you see straight into the objective that has to be achieved, it makes you sit straight and love everything because determination is all about moving forward with the lessons from bad experiences, bad situations and decisions. Determination allows you to focus on that Goal, the Objective that has to be achieved in your life, which is most important, than else thing. You have to feed the determination to nourish the qualities you wish to keep with you constantly by understanding it, examine it, and using it. The determination is part of oneself anyways… but it’s been winter for so long that it is gone under the blankets. Sometimes we have to locate them and appeal them to us.
Determine, what is that you want in your life? What is most important to you in your life?
What is stopping you to achieve it? How can you help yourself in reaching your goal?
Determination helps you Focus on your goal and with courage you can take a step forward into the area of difficulty, where there is no solid solution in mind BUT yet feeling that victory is ahead. Remember!!! One cannot expect success staying in their comfort zone.
One has to come out of their comfort zone by stepping in the unknown area to achieve higher levels in their lives. Later, that risked area would become their comfort zone.
Determination keeps you stick with the objective with which you have started planning your goals. How you achieve it is just a process and as we learnt and experienced several times that, the procedure or process what we have planned may work or may not work.
With the determination, one will have the flexibility to shift into other process in order to achieve the aimed objective.
On the road of practice many incidences may distract our peace of mind and our determination. And when determine shatters; then, Hold your self back silently because silence brings the strength to go on, the steadiness to success, the courage to take challenges, the tolerance to understand, forgive and the softness to slip the past difficulties to unobserved and forget all the most horrible.
In the silence find the Value again, Value of self, Value of what you wanted to achieve…. then fall in love with the task you aimed for!!!!
As we know, Determination keeps the pleasant experiences with it and leaves the unpleasant experiences, by taking a lesson out it.
Vahini Muniganti
Continuation of - Understand the State Of Mind
| | 0 comments Hi All....
After reading precede article at least few might had carry on with virtual thought process on the questions left at the end of the topic.
Any way, our Government has certain department to follow some test in laboratory on new food products before they are launched into market, for consumers. These tests are done to see whether the food substances are health and safe to eat or are they adulterated?
Similarly, there is a test for forgiveness…
Well, If you have read the preceding part of Understand your State Of Mind, and while reading you felt at some point or other, that you can relate yourself, were you had experienced similar thing and very generously you have forgiven the people, forgot the experience and you have moved on in life.
For instance, imagine about the person who had pained you, cheated you, and broke your trust and faith. And you got to hear amazingly good news about this person and you feel gasp at hearing good news, then you must, the roots of hatred are still in your subconscious mind, creating a confusion within you.
And, suppose two years ago, you had a terrible road accident with painful wounds and fractures which you had to bear for more a month and half, where the pains were so much unbearable that you had experienced sleepless nights and some time doctors had to give you pain kills and a medicine to get you sleep.
And you are now telling that incidence in detail to your friend.
Now, your friend asks you – whether you are in the same pain now? You will give a strange look to him and you would say – I don’t feel the pain but I remember the experience.
That is the whole analysis!!! If you have forgiven someone for their mistake you will remember the experience but no longer the pain, which has hurt you.
If not, you are simply misleading yourself – you are not practicing the true art of FORGIVENESS.
And, when you can’t forgive whole-heartedly you can never forget –Remember unforgotten experiences perpetuate the bad experiences and that would result in similar experiences in future. Then, how to break this chain? Simply understand the situation are in, increase patience, appreciate your tolerance level, widen your mind of understanding others mindset and behavior, along with your heart of love and forgiveness. If you can help the person who is creating fuss, then only extend your hand OR just forgive and forget, which is now a days said as IGNORE.
By, Thinking that those bad experiences situations can affect you and your environment – you are actually creating that kind of environment again. Instead, you imagine, that you are so strong with highest level of Tolerance, and nothing can affect you, in turn your strong tolerance will effect positively on those bad environments, this will virtually kill the bad experiences and never allow them to get into reality. Don’t Believe? Try it with tolerance!!!!! IT WORKS…
I personally feel that we CAN practically deal with any kind of people or situations. It is just the matter of understanding and being honest to our self.
Remember!!!! Bad NEVER, EVER stronger than Good….
Vahini Muniganti
Understand the State Of Mind
| | 4 commentsUntil the moment you understand your state of mind, how it creates rule, you will not stop BLAMING other people or situations for your failures in your life. It is your own thoughts and feelings in a particular situation that forced you to take decisions, which has messed up your future OR say destiny. In addition, you are well aware of your real, inner personality. No one knows you better than you. Not even the GOD who created you nor your mother who bought you in this world. It is only you who knows the real YOU. You are aware that the externals are not the causes and conditioners of your life and your experiences. Carrying a thought process that others can or have spoilt your happiness, your peace of mind, OR cheated you and left you no where in your life or in your carrier and you being innocent or helpless became the victim like a football from this square to that, feels you must combat and fight on others for survival and that is the right way to deal with – All these ideas expose their destructive personality, and when you understand that thoughts are the things that creates the feelings...
Thought + Feelings = Decisions รจ Destiny “A man is a model of his thoughts”--- Vahini
“ For as a man thinketh in his heart, so he is.” PROVERBS 23: 7
Then, how do you understand yourself, others and situations around?
To start and develop understanding, one have to forgive and forget others mistakes and situations. No matter how big or small the situation or person is.
Most of the times in my trainings and counseling, I come across to people who say: Of course, we forgive and forget others mistakes or else it would be difficult to move on in life…. You won’t believe want kind of situations we have come across? You can even imagine…. And so on…
It is highly appreciable if they have forgive and forgot…
AND, How does one knows that they have really forgiven the person who has disturbed, by putting you in worst situations which resulted as bad experiences to you? We will do a simple Self-analysis test in my next post, to find out –
- How honest we are when we say we forgive and forget others mistakes?
- Are we true to our self?
Vahini Muniganti
SELF-CONFIDENCE
| | 1 commentsSelf Confidence is knowing your way round yourself, knowing the inside outs so instinctively that you ALWAYS have strength to draw on. Somewhere inside, from the illness [mental, emotional & physical], you can find something. EVEN areas of illness [jealousy, crooked, immoral, etc] don’t shake the mind, because they are already under demolition; they’re the empty houses where your mind doesn’t even bother to enter anymore. And if you do knock into such part of you, confidence brings the power to walk gently away. Where there is no confidence, you believe you ought to stay and make a demonstration of what is bad, a celebration of the WEAK.
SELF CONFIDENCE makes you move more slowly, speak more quietly, and stop to look at whom you’re communicating with instead of flattering life by rushing heavily on. It enables you to stand happily and quietly in a gap of ignorance and let everyone wait until you are ready. Then in the quietness before a word has been said. When nerves persist in shaking your poise, self-confidence enables you to stay soft, silent and make the whole machine calm down.
Self-Confidence runs deeper, much deeper than the nerves.
Where there is a misconception of being silent, soft as incompetent, or even taken granted, there in fact the self-confidence is working gently, by cutting sharply the wed of all false connections that make you think that people are criticizing. At its strongest, it makes it possible to collapse a thought in someone’s mind before the thinker has even realized it. Self- Confidence is POWER.
Where Self-Confidence is deep, there is groundwork for real giving. Authentic means “I” am silent; no jangling nerves OR loud thoughts. Stillness…….
And in that stillness, I CAN HEAR YOU. Hear, what you said what you are trying to hide. I CAN HEAR YOU IN AND OUT.
How to GAIN Self Confidence? One way is to talk, not to others but to your self. At times in insecurity, it’s warming to talk to someone else, but it is safe to talk to your self. Because, inside there is a reserve of LOVE that WILL see you in the course of anything. After talking to your self, giving nerves a niche to quietly alarm in, then it’s a best to DO. Action together with quite love kills nerves and CREATES a reserve of COURAGE that, stored, can be drawn on later. Ultimately the love you needed can be given to someone else which is completely untouched, not only love, peace, serenity, loyalty, honesty…..can all be given with out you touch them. Experience the POWER of Self Confidence that enables you to be UNTOUCHED by all insanities.........
Vahini Muniganti
Develop the Power of Determination
| | 1 commentsIt is no use blaming others, when we cannot change our self and help others change themselves. We must all develop tremendous strength and will power to resist the negativities. The moral strength helps us immensely to fight against personal and social evils. Just keeping quite as if nothing is going incorrect is not a great virtue.
We need the greater positive energy to broaden our strengths, which increases positive forces in spreading good ideas. This passes on from to another building greater positivism. A numerous number of people fired with zeal of intelligence and positivism, fortified with eternal faith in them and nerved with stronger courage that has the passion to contribute, will go over the length and breath of the land helping each other in becoming superior personals.
Vahini Muniganti
Perception Of me on Tolerance
| | 0 commentsTolerance is bouncing back even when you are thrown against a very hard wall. A square can't bounce because it's made of straight lines, but a ball can because it’s round and usually light. This life is all there and so we may as well aim for our goals directly, with no largeness or beauty. As the corners of the square, the sudden changes of direction can hurt people.
One doesn't associate a ball with hurting, but with playing a game.
How is it possible to have tolerance in a splendid way, as a virtue rather than a necessity?
One has to Love quiet, and over and over again, make a silent journey inside oneself.........
This brings such a beauty in you that, though ugliness and problems are seen they are fairly integrated into design, they give a contrast.
Then love people, not in all a superficial way but also as who have an intricate design of experience inside.
When you start looking into people’s eyes and see their rarity and meet your rarity too, then TOLERANCE becomes easy. It is an expression of your respect for quality, for keeping life OUTSTANDING.
Where there is no tolerance, everything becomes ordinary. It's like standing on the edge of things and sullen.
Tolerance is saying yes to the game and enjoying it...........
Vahini
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